I recently read an article denoting
some keys to effective growth. One of the author’s suggestions was to avoid
using “if-only” statements at all cost. This involves blaming another person or
group for your failings. If only someone else were doing a better job, then
things would change for the better. In education this might represent
inattentive parents or involvement from an out of touch government. In your
community this might be blaming politicians or the economy for the current
state of affairs. If only we had good leaders… If only there were more jobs…
This thinking can also affect our
discipleship! Think about think about the “if-only” statements that we often
times revert to regarding the public assembly. “If only so and so were here.
They needed that sermon!” “If only Sister _______ would assist more with
cleanup, things would be better.” “If only other people would give more, we
could better minster to others!”
We are also prone to play the blame
game in other areas of our walk. My friends, this is most unproductive. The
Bible teaches that discipleship begins with us. In Philippians 2:12, the
apostle Paul instructs us to work out our own salvation with fear and
trembling. He then outlines how we are responsible for shining as lights in a
crooked and perverse world. The onus is not on those that are evil, but we who
have been quickened by the Spirit.
While most problems are generally
complex with multiple areas of blame, God expects behavior change and growth to
begin with us. Who are you blaming for your surrounding woes? The economy? The
government? A different race? Evil people in your community? Slack church
members? Scripture requires change to begin with you! What areas of life are
you stuck in a rut because you are playing the “if only” game?
Blessings,
Michael D. Green, Jr.
