Article - Tearing Down - Part II

Tearing Down – Part II

For in many things we offend all. If any man offend not in word, the same is a perfect man, and able also to bridle the whole body. – James 3:2

As children we would oftentimes recite, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” This would be helpful if it were true! Words do hurt others. Author Robert Fulghum stated correct sentiment when he wrote, “Sticks and stones will break our bones, but words will break our hearts.” We all have been harmed by the words of others. While the pain is not physical, the emotional wounds can last a lifetime. I have counseled with people that continue to feel the pain of a cruel word that might have been spoken decades ago. In this article we will explore what the Bible says about our words. In light of scripture we can determine if our words are building up or tearing down others.

In the verse above, James describes the great challenge of bridling our tongues. The first step to using edifying words is to understand that it is a great challenge to keep our tongue in check. James writes that a man who does not offend in his speech is a complete man who is able to display self-control in all aspects of his life. Are you at this point in your life? I continue to be a work in progress! The tongue is a small organ but wields great influence. James likens it to a horse’s bridle and a ship’s rudder (James 3:3-5). In verse 5 he writes of the great fire that the tongue can start. This week we have been made starkly aware of the devastating force of natural fires. Hurtful words, gossip, slander, and evil speaking can cause its own destruction.

The Bible instructs us to bridle our tongues. While it is a challenge to our carnal natures, it is entirely possible for the Christian to accomplish. James likens us to fountains and fig trees. In James 3:11-12 he writes, “Doth a fountain send forth at the same place sweet water and bitter? Can the fig tree, my brethren, bear olive berries? Either a vine, figs? So can no fountain both yield salt water and fresh?” As God’s children that have been made alive by his Spirit, we are to produce sweet waters. Our tongues are to bear fruit that is honoring to our master. He concludes in writing that wisdom is manifested by a good conversation seasoned with meekness (v.13). Are your words seasoned with wisdom?

In Matthew 12:34 Jesus said, “For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh.” Our words are indicative of what is going on in our heart. In light of Jesus’ teaching we need to understand that inappropriate words are not merely ‘slip-ups.’ They are outward manifestations of what we are carrying inside of us. If we are harboring anger, bitterness, etc. then our conversations will be seasoned with such things. This should motivate us to put away evil thinking and focus on things that are lovely, just, and pure (Philippians 4:8).

Take care when you speak to others. The things that we say can cause great damage to others. Pay careful attention when you converse with your wife, husband or children. Sometimes we say things to them that we would never speak to anyone else! Be careful not to offend your brother or sister in the church by engaging in gossip or careless communication. Remember, the tiny tongue can start a huge fire! Solomon wrote that, “A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.” While hurtful words can cause great damage, a fitly spoken word can be a beautiful thing. Let us labor to build up others with our words.

Michael Green, Jr. is pastor of Palm Chapel Primitive Baptist Church (www.palmchapel.org) in Crestview, FL. Palm Chapel meets every Sunday at 10:30am and Wednesday at 6:00pm. Pastor Green can be contacted at (850) 689-3383 or by email at pastormichael@palmchapel.org. Pastor Green warmly invites you to come and worship at Palm Chapel Primitive Baptist Church.